You may have been thinking about divorcing for a long time, yet you are still waiting for “the right moment” to tell your spouse the marriage is over.
While some moments are better than others, there will never be an ideal moment to tell your spouse. Much like jumping into a cold swimming pool, sometimes it is best to get it out of the way. However, in the same way that you check the water is deep enough before jumping, there are some things you should do before telling your partner.
Preparing for divorce before you announce it is advantageous
It can be hard to judge how a spouse will react, so it pays to do your homework first. Unless, of course, there are urgent reasons to escape your marriage, such as staying would endanger you. Here are three things you can do to prepare for a divorce:
- Learn about the laws: An attorney can outline how divorce works in Texas and point out any mistakes to avoid.
- Assess your finances: There may be financial advantages to timing your divorce sooner or later. For example, there may be tax advantages to ending the tax year as a couple rather than a divorcee. By contrast, waiting for your spouse’s 80-year-old mother to die so you can claim a part of the inheritance is not sensible. First, they may live for another 20 years, and second, an inheritance is usually not shared in divorce.
- Think about living arrangements: Where will you live once you have told your spouse you want to divorce? Chat with friends or family first so that you have somewhere to go if you need to, at least for a few nights.
Divorce can throw your world into chaos. Ensuring you have the necessary information to hand before announcing your decision can help you think about things with a clear head, unclouded by whatever turmoil results.