It is understandable that some divorces get out of hand and turn into heated battles. There’s a lot at stake, and at least one party often feels upset or offended by matters that led to the divorce.
Yet starting World War Three is not going to benefit anyone, and it will likely do a lot of harm to various people. Here are some of that would benefit from you and your spouse keeping things civil:
They will probably be more affected than anyone by the conflict between you. If you need to have difficult discussions that could get heated, find a time and place to do it away from the children.
Your friends and family
If your in-laws or spouse’s friends all hate you, then maybe your divorce won’t be so bad for them. Yet typically, many of them will have grown fond of you. It’s likely you and your spouse have accumulated a lot of mutual friends too. The tension between you and your spouse can make it difficult for those around you, as they may feel their loyalties are split or feel forced to take sides.
You and your spouse
While you might have moments where you enjoy plotting how to avenge your spouse, in the long run, difficulties are not good for either of you. They burden you with extra stress and negative emotions that can do serious harm to everybody’s future.
You do not need to pretend to be best friends, but you should realize that if you can sit down and discuss your split calmly, it will make ending your marriage quicker and more straightforward. Consider legal help to assess your situation and negotiate your divorce from a well-informed position.